“No” Polishes The Diamond

“No” is like a jeweler’s buffing wheel. It can catch and clear away what’s obscuring the radiance of a relationship. “No” can wipe away mismatched priorities between people. “No” can whip away actions about to be done in obligation for another, yet at one’s own expense. “No” can whisk away the stagnation of holding onto another in confusion or delusion.

People have been gifting each other diamonds as a sign of commitment for thousands of years. Do they give each other dirty diamonds? No!

After officiating 550 weddings, I have learned that each partner’s strong and multifaceted yes shines through as a gem only after each of their “no’s” cut and crafted the rough stone of their relating.

Diamonds hold the potential to shine, even when smudged day to day. Relationships, like diamonds, need cleaning, polishing, and sometimes resetting. That’s all relationships, including our relationship with ourselves. Diamond rings are a reminder to do what it takes to keep shining.

“No” polishes the diamond. — BAM!

Where could your “No” polish a situation so that all shine more brightly now?